Experience closeness again

Does it feel like you and your spouse keep stepping on each other’s toes no matter how hard you try to connect?

Are you feeling isolated and misunderstood in your relationship?

Do you find yourself wondering how you and your spouse got to this point?

Are you unwilling to give up on one another?

Do you want to feel loved, connected, and accepted by your spouse again?

 

You can feel heard and understood again.

You have responsibilities that have kept you both so busy. Maybe some unexpected stress has come up and has started to strain your relationship. Perhaps the demands of family or work have caused you to put your relationship on the back burner for too long, leaving you feeling disconnected. You’ve always worked well together as a team, but lately it feels like you’re on opposing sides.

Others may think you have the ideal relationship, so maybe you feel like it’s hard to share your relationship struggles with anyone who would understand. Maybe it even feels a little scary to focus on your relationship struggles, sometimes it seems easier to pretend like everything’s ok.

 

Learn to be a safe haven for each other.

Couples therapy can help you reconnect with your spouse and share with one another deeper than ever before. Using approaches such as the Gottman Method and Emotion-focused Couples Therapy, we focus on creating new meaningful connections together instead of focusing on 1 person as “the problem.” Each partner can feel supported, validated, and heard. Rather than feeling like your partner is sending you mixed signals, couples counseling helps you to better understand your spouse’s needs, as well as clearly communicating your own needs. Problems are just seen as problems to overcome together instead of threats to the relationship. We are all created to live in healthy relationship with one another; research has even shown that good relationships keep us healthier and happier. Couples therapy can not only help reconnect with your spouse, but also improve your mental, emotional, and physical health.

 

Does it feel like you and your spouse keep stepping on each other’s toes no matter how hard you try to connect?

Are you feeling isolated and misunderstood in your relationship?

Do you find yourself wondering how you and your spouse got to this point?

Are you unwilling to give up on one another?

Do you want to feel loved, connected, and accepted by your spouse again?

 

You can feel heard and understood again.

You have responsibilities that have kept you both so busy. Maybe some unexpected stress has come up and has started to strain your relationship. Perhaps the demands of family or work have caused you to put your relationship on the back burner for too long, leaving you feeling disconnected. You’ve always worked well together as a team, but lately it feels like you’re on opposing sides.

Others may think you have the ideal relationship, so maybe you feel like it’s hard to share your relationship struggles with anyone who would understand. Your commitments keep you both so busy, and making time to focus on one another takes so much effort. Maybe it even feels a little scary to focus on your relationship struggles, sometimes it seems easier to pretend like everything’s ok.

 

Learn to be a safe haven for each other.

Couples therapy can help you reconnect with your spouse and share with one another deeper than ever before. Using approaches such as the Gottman Method and Emotion-focused Couples Therapy, we focus on creating new meaningful connections together instead of focusing on 1 person as “the problem.” Each partner can feel supported, validated, and heard. Rather than feeling like your partner is sending you mixed signals, couples counseling helps you to better understand your spouse’s needs, as well as clearly communicating your own needs. Problems are just seen as problems to overcome together instead of threats to the relationship. We are all created to live in healthy relationship with one another; research has even shown that good relationships keep us healthier and happier. Couples therapy can not only help reconnect with your spouse, but also improve your mental, emotional, and physical health.

 

Common Concerns

“Are we beyond help? Can counseling really help our relationship?”

Whether your relationship has been struggling for months or years, you know that you are tired of the status quo. Couples therapy can be effective when you recognize that you have the power to help your spouse feel more secure in your relationship.

“What if my spouse is reluctant to go to couples counseling?”

It is not uncommon for one partner to be more willing to seek help than the other. One person may be weary of being singled out and confronted as being “the one with the problem.” In couples therapy, we seek to understand the negative patterns in the relationship, not individual deficits. I work to build trust with both parents to create a sense of safety in the room.

“What if I’m not sure I want to stay in the relationship?”

Sometimes couples come to couples therapy and they aren’t sure how committed they are to working on the relationship. Maybe they’re so hurt, so worn out, and are tired of fighting the same battles. Couples therapy, like most other therapy, doesn’t guarantee 100% success. Therapy can provide a safe space for each partner to make their wishes known for the future. However, you’ve invested this much in the relationship already, are you willing to invest possibly 12 more hours of your life to give the relationship a chance?

Ready to make changes to live the life you were meant to live?