Gain clarity and confidence

Does it feel like you and your spouse keep stepping on each other’s toes no matter how hard you try to connect?

Are you feeling isolated and misunderstood in your relationship?

Do you find yourself wondering how you and your spouse got to this point?

Do you want to feel loved, connected, and accepted by your spouse again?

Are you considering divorce but are unsure if that’s the best path? Discernment Counseling might be for you.

You or your partner aren’t sure if you want to stay in the marriage.

If you or your spouse are thinking about divorce but feel uncertain if that’s really the best path, Discernment Counseling was created specifically with you in mind. It’s an opportunity to slowdown, pause, and consider your options for your marriage. Discernment Counseling is for couples where one partner may be “leaning out” and ready to end the relationship, while the other partner is “leaning in” and ready to repair the relationship. I would work with each partner individually to decide whether to stay the course, move towards divorce, or try to restore your marriage to health. The goal is for you to gain clarity and confidence about a direction, based on a deeper understanding of your relationship and its possibilities for the future. The goal is not to solve your marital problems but to help you decide whether to try to solve your problems. In our work together I emphasize the importance of each of you seeing your own contributions to the problems and the possible solutions. This will be beneficial in future relationships because even if you choose to divorce your partner, you cannot divorce yourself. If you feel that Discernment Counseling applies to your relationship, both partners will need to email me to schedule free 20-min phone consultations before proceeding.

Does it feel like you and your spouse keep stepping on each other’s toes no matter how hard you try to connect?

Are you feeling isolated and misunderstood in your relationship?

Do you find yourself wondering how you and your spouse got to this point?

Do you want to feel loved, connected, and accepted by your spouse again?

Are you considering divorce but are unsure if that’s the best path? Discernment Counseling might be for you.

You can feel heard and understood again.

Others may think you have the ideal relationship, so maybe you feel like it’s hard to share your relationship struggles with anyone who would understand. Your commitments keep you both so busy, and making time to focus on one another takes so much effort. Making time to work on the most relationship in your life is an investment. You’ve already invested so much of yourself, you don’t want to just give up. When I work with you in couples therapy, you’ll discover how to be a secure base and a safe haven for one another. Using approaches such as the Gottman Method and Emotion-focused Couples Therapy, we focus on creating new meaningful connections together instead of focusing on one person as “the problem”. Each partner can feel supported, validated, and heard. You’ll start seeing problems as just problems to overcome together instead of threats to the relationship. We are all created to live in healthy relationship with one another; research has even shown that good relationships keep us healthier and happier. Couples therapy can not only help you reconnect with your spouse, but also improve your overall mental, emotional, and physical health.

You or your partner aren’t sure if you want to stay in the marriage.

If you or your spouse are thinking about divorce but feel uncertain if that’s really the best path, Discernment Counseling was created specifically with you in mind. It’s an opportunity to slowdown, pause, and consider your options for your marriage. Discernment Counseling is for couples where one partner may be “leaning out” and ready to end the relationship, while the other partner is “leaning in” and ready to repair the relationship. I would work with each partner individually to decide whether to stay the course, move towards divorce, or try to restore your marriage to health. The goal is for you to gain clarity and confidence about a direction, based on a deeper understanding of your relationship and its possibilities for the future. The goal is not to solve your marital problems but to help you decide whether to try to solve your problems. In our work together I emphasize the importance of each of you seeing your own contributions to the problems and the possible solutions. This will be beneficial in future relationships because even if you choose to divorce your partner, you cannot divorce yourself. If you feel that Discernment Counseling applies to your relationship, both partners will need to email me to schedule free 20-min phone consultations before proceeding.